Monthly Archives: March 2017

Try Spending a Little Time on Educational Websites for a Positive Change

The average person spends nearly two hours every day on social media. And, not that this is “bad,” but, perhaps, next time you need a break from work, instead of going on Facebook to waste time or sleep, try expanding your mind and or learn a new skill or language!

One thing, not even on the list below, is learning how to type. Most people online are still of the two or four finger typist variety, and, today’s online typing courses are actually fun, very effective, not to mention, FREE. Don’t think you are too old to learn. Learning to type may very well awaken your mind to the fact that it’s never too late to teach an old dog a new trick!

Below are 10 great websites that can make you smarter and have the potential to largely improve your life.

1. Unplug The TV

Each time you visit this site, it generates a new video for you to watch and become smarter. Try to watch the whole video even if the topic doesn’t seem to be interesting to you. By learning more about unfamiliar topics you’re enlarging your comfort zone and widening your perspective.

2. Skillshare

The classes are taught by expert practitioners. No more theories. No more empty promises. The skills they teach are really applicable and useful.

As a non-profit making organization, it offers a wide range of tuition-free courses from associate degrees to graduate degrees.

4. High Brow

Once you subscribe to it, it will send you 5-minute long courses on various subjects to your inbox every day. Easy to digest and interesting.

5. Investopedia

Investment and finance seem to be really difficult topics? Even if we like it or not, finance does affect our every aspect of life. Learn more about it from the team of data scientists and financial experts on the site.

6. Brain pump

This site covers interesting and less-known knowledge that you would seldom see on social media. Not all of them would be practical for your life but for sure it will make you become more creative and a funnier person.

The slower you read, the less insights you gain, and the slower you’ll grow than others. Catch up with this tool that helps you digest everything faster. Just paste the text you’d like to read, then it’ll guide you to read faster and gradually yet effectively improve your overall reading speed.

8. Coursera

It offers lots of free courses which have great reputation. Its specializations are data science, machine learning, etc.

9. Hemingway Editor

Everybody writes, even if you’re not a writer. This site is like your free tutor who would point out which parts of your sentenced can be tuned to instantly improve the whole piece after you paste the text on it. Some common advice it gives is to avoid passive voice and lengthy sentences.

10. edX

This site features a number of courses from various universities from around the world. As of December 2016, it already got 10 million students taking more than 1,270 courses online.

Do it for the Love of People, not the Love of Money

Today, I was speaking to an associate, who I like very much. Not because he’s likable, but, because, I choose to see the beauty in all of God’s Creation, including myself, whenever I remember what’s important. There’s not one of us who doesn’t harshly criticize ourselves, quite often, even daily or even every few minutes, and ends up feeling quite dispirited and discouraged by our own thoughts. So, what to do?

Life is for the living, not the dead. We are here. Or, at least we think we are. What to make of it? Trying to get out won’t solve anything, nor will it work. People are everywhere, and, don’t forget, you are a “people,” too. We cannot avoid the judgments we make on “others” and/or on the world “outside” of us. God is too Merciful and Just to allow anyone to escape his own condemnation. Why? Because, He’s God. How else can we learn the Truth -that we are all One, connected not by a “golden thread,” but, literally, inseparable and with no visible gap in between – if we can’t see who we believe ourselves to be in the mirror of the judgments and labels we project unto others?

What’s the obsession with the body, anyway? What has it ever brought you but ultra-short term stimulating experiences that don’t amount to much more than feeling of taking stimulant type drugs, which makes you feel “high,” but, then, make you quickly crash. Who wants a high that doesn’t last? Not me! What’s my point? My point is that whatever we do, it’s not in the doing, it’s in the intention and the perception of the “outcome” or result of our actions when we are doing it. WHY do we do what we do and what’s it FOR? These are the key things to ask ourselves each time we think or say or do anything. Some say, being a marketer, for example, is “shallow” work, in that we are simply “selling,” or, even in some people’s opinion, “lying” to get money from other people, offering things that have no value, or even just taking the money and running… This is a travesty upon what is supposed to be the noble profession of marketing and networking! Sadly, this reputation exists, because, people are people, and many of us are focused on the wrong motivations, and have become blinded by it.

This is really what’s going on and what should motivate us – We are here to be BLESSED and to be a BLESSING unto others – that’s it. It doesn’t matter WHAT we do, but, it does matter HOW we do it! If our intention is to leave people better off than they were before we met them, then, that’s the only thought we need to hold in our minds, to be happy, no matter how much money we make. In marketing and advertising, I am always hearing things like “make a killing,” and books given titles like “Think Big And Kick Ass,” and other very ugly concepts that only serve to ruin the reputation of the marketing industry. Look at the richest people on earth. Most of them are UGLY and ANGRY and EVIL. Why? Because, most of them have not been very nice to get their money. When you are kind and loving, you are also naturally concerned about others, generous, and full of hope and love, which leads to looking BEAUTIFUL, and glowing from thinking HEALTHY thoughts and making LOVING actions. A long life is not necessarily a good life, if, while you are alive, you are suffering from extreme feelings of guilt and shame, but attempting to cover it up with stacks of $100 bills, luxury vacations and mansions.

Listen… You cannot take even one material thing with you to the next chapter in our lives, after our bodies cease to function. Why focus on things? Focus on what matters, which is NOT matter! It’s people. It’s souls. It’s hearts. If you are in the marketing/networking industry, do it to bless others, not to get rich. Do it, not to “make money on auto-pilot” or to “become a millionaire with the push of a button.” Do it because there is a very gratifying feeling we get when we help people to get something they need that will benefit their lives. After people sign up or buy, don’t forget about them. They are your new friends. Help them, support them, lead by example, and, you will find that your income grows steadily, no matter which program you are involved with, so long as the program is legitimate and offers a product or service with true value. Thank you very much for helping to improve people’s perception of marketing and networking, and, for making your life much more fulfilling.

John Wooden’s 7-Point Creed: ‘Be Thankful’

The seventh item of Coach Wooden’s Seven-Point Creed is, “Give thanks for your blessings and pray for guidance every day.”

When Coach spoke on this point, he would frequently recite one of his favorite Abraham Lincoln quotes: “If we magnified our blessings the way we magnify our disappointments, we’d all be a lot happier.” Indeed, accepting disappointment without complaint is one of the key points that Coach taught on the subject of being thankful.

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Coach learned at an early age to accept disappointments with good grace because of the example set by his parents. Although his father, Joshua Wooden, lost his farm due to the mistake of another, he never complained or assigned blame. Joshua’s ability to make the best out of an adverse situation was one of the traits that Coach came to admire most in his father.

Coach also saw the same quality in his mother Roxie, after she suffered the deaths of her two daughters within a year of each other. Her first daughter, Cordelia, died from diphtheria at 2 years old, and her second daughter died at birth. Despite these tragedies, Coach never heard his mother complain, nor witness her feeling sorry for herself as she raised four spirited boys.

“The great secret of life is to cultivate the ability to appreciate the things we have.”

At times, Coach emphasized the importance of being thankful by quoting Lao Tse: “Freedom from desire leads to inner peace.” He also added his own words of wisdom: “The great secret of life is to cultivate the ability to appreciate the things we have, not compare them.” Coach often encouraged us to not take for granted the many things we have that we did nothing to earn, such as life itself, the beauty of nature, the great country we live in, or the love of our family and friends.

The second part of that advice, to pray for guidance, were also words Coach took to heart. His own faith was very dear to him and he respected the religions of all people, because he knew that faith was an important part of living a worthwhile life. He encouraged his players to have a faith and to be able to defend their beliefs, but he never encouraged them to pray to win. That would be far too selfish, he said.

In 1942, Coach received a faithful attendance pen from Frank E. Davidson, who operated an interfaith men’s club called The Forum. Men would attend during the Sunday school hour to study and pray together, and then leave to worship at their own churches. The night before receiving the award, Coach’s team won the finals in the sectional tournament against a Catholic team whose coach, Johnny Howe, also attended The Forum. The next morning, Frank Davidson joked, “There I was at the game last night and here was Johnny Wooden, who I knew was going to receive his medal for not having missed in the last year—and there was Johnny Howe with his team all blessing themselves. Now wasn’t our Lord in a heck of a spot?”

Contentment makes poor men rich; discontent makes rich men poor.

As he liked to do, Coach shared with us some great wisdom to remind us to give thanks for our blessings and pray for guidance every day: Contentment makes poor men rich; discontent makes rich men poor.

  • Take time to live, it is the secret of success.
  • Take time to think, it is the source of power.
  • Take time to play, it is the secret of youth.
  • Take time to read, it is the foundation of knowledge.
  • Take time for friendship, it is the source of happiness.
  • Take time to laugh, it helps lift life’s load.
  • Take time to dream, it hitches the soul to the stars.
  • Take time for God, it is life’s only lasting investment.  

When Coach was asked whether he was able to live up to his father’s Seven-Point Creed, he would often say, “I am not what I want to be, not what I ought to be, and not what I am going to be, but I am thankful that I am not what I used to be.” No matter how daunting the task of living up to your creed, pursuing your dreams or reaching your goals might seem, the key is that you must never stop trying. For each new day brings progress, and in doing your best you achieve success.

How to Relax as you Wait for Things to Happen

If you’re anything like me you have been there many times.

You’re sitting in a waiting room. Or just waiting somewhere.

Soon it will begin.

Your leg is starting to shake nervously. Your hands are starting to sweat and
maybe your mouth feels a bit dry.

Your thoughts are becoming jumbled, it’s hard to focus.

Maybe you have an important test in school. An appointment with your doctor or
dentist. A date that you are looking forward to but at the same time you are
scared to make a fool of yourself on.

Whatever it may be it is making you anxious.

So today I’d like to share a couple of tips that have helped me to reduce low
or medium level anxiety.

Breathe.

Sit down, in a quiet place if possible. Breathe a little deeper than usual and do it
with your belly and not with your chest. For just a minute or two focus on only the
air going in and out of your nostrils. Nothing else.

This will calm your mind and body down. And it will bring your attention back to
the present moment instead of it being lost in scary, future scenarios or bad
memories from the past.

Change your focus to what you can do right now.

When you ask yourself questions that make you feel powerless or like things will
only get worse and worse then you take away your personal power.

Empower yourself by instead asking yourself:

What is one small thing I can do to improve upon this situation today?

Write down that question and brainstorm answers for a few minutes. Then take
action on one of the answers you find. It doesn’t have to be a big action, just one
small step forward. And when you are done with it then take another one.

Perhaps, taking action on a dream you’ve had for years might be the very thing that causes you to not be concerned about anything in your life?

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Why Bother? Digging Into the Purpose of Personal, Financial, and Professional Success

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To some extent, our generation lacks the clarity of purpose that came with the unifying challenges of our predecessors: There’s no Great Depression to survive, no frontier to explore, and no World War to win. Photo: Library of Congress

“We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact.” – Chuck Palahniuk

One of my favorite sayings, something I’ve held onto for my entire life, is that everyone alive was born without a real frontier. We were born too late to explore the world and we were born too early to explore the stars.

If you look at it on that level, it’s kind of a sad thing. Aside from some areas of high level science and philosophy that require many years of preparation and intense study in order to explore an intellectual frontier, there really are no frontiers that we’re actively exploring. For the first time in human history, there is no clear and present frontier for the vast majority of us to explore or clear and present cause for us to take up.

Think about it. Prior to, say, 1900, there was always a frontier somewhere to explore that any reasonable person could dive into and make a name for themselves with just their own initiative and perhaps a little bit of equipment. Subsequent generations had their own grand challenges – World War I, the Great Depression, World War II, the civil rights movement.

Today, we don’t have a frontier to explore or a great cause to take up.

Life holds no grand purpose for us rather than what we make for ourselves.

For a lot of people, that lack of central grand purpose ends up leaving a very empty feeling inside. I have certainly felt it in many ways, and I know from the many conversations I’ve had with other people that I’m far from alone in feeling that way.

Our basic needs are met, there is nothing that’s accessible that we can easily explore, and there’s no grand challenge that we’re facing as a society. So, what’s left? What’s the purpose? Why bother?

The easy answer is to fall into a life of pleasure. Our society is full of opportunities for this. In fact, most of our economy is centered around this, offering services and entertainments to offer us ways to distract ourselves and enjoy splashes of personal pleasure on a daily basis. There is no end to the films to watch, the television shows to enjoy, the tourist traps to visit, the page-turning books to read, the restaurants offering delectable foods to eat, the spas and golf courses to wile away the hours, and so on.

But at the end of the day, those pleasures wash away and I’m left with some real hard questions.

One of my favorite things growing up was hearing my grandparents tell stories about their experiences during the Great Depression and World War II. They had the opportunity to face a grand challenge on a scale far beyond what anyone in our current generations has ever faced. They stepped up to the plate and defeated that challenge, and because of that their stories of those days had real meaning. They had done something great with their lives. They had faced extreme adversity and overcome it.

More important than that, overcoming that adversity had made the world a better place for me and for everyone else. Even as a young child I could see that. Their stories about the things that they did and the adventures that they had, even when they were silly and full of fun (like a relative telling a tale of drinking in a French bar the day after rescuing the town from the Nazis, or my grandmother talking about boiling bedsheets), were part of something that truly changed the world for the better.

Those stories inspired me. They made me see the people around me as heroes – and they were heroes.

Today, I ask myself this simple question: what stories am I going to tell my grandchildren? What will I tell them that will inspire them with regards to my own life? How will I have changed the world for the better for them?

And the thing is, I don’t really have an answer.

Sure, I can tell them about The Simple Dollar. I started a website that helped a lot of people dig themselves out of a painful personal hole.

I have a few fun adventures to tell them about, like the time I drank homebrewed tequila with a rural Mexican farmer when we had no language in common, or how I got a cold chill when I climbed to the top of an Aztec pyramid and saw a place where humans were sacrificed in the 14th and 15th centuries, or how I had my ear cut off as a child (true story).

The thing is, what does that really amount to? It’s a start, sure, but what have I really done to make the world a better place?

It’s not an easy thing to answer. For me, however, I’ve come to realize that the past ten years of my life have really been a constant attempt to try to answer that question – and I’m still not there.

For most of us – myself included – there are several challenges already in place that we need to overcome so that we can even be in a good place to change the world for the better.

The Vision Challenge

It all starts with a core idea. What exactly could you do with your life that has real meaning? Different people are going to answer that question very differently, but almost everyone is going to answer with a picture of their life that’s significantly different than what their life is like right now.

For some, this could wind up being a bucket list. They want to experience the wide variety of sights and experiences that this world has to offer and then share those experiences with others.

For others, this could end up being a personal dedication to a singular cause, something that they believe in incredibly strongly and are willing to devote their life’s energy to it.

For yet others, this could be the production of a creative or intellectual work of some kind, like a great novel or a film.

Other people may have goals centered around being a family matriarch or patriarch, founding a business that employs a lot of people, or something else entirely.

My own vision is a mix of the second and third ones, with perhaps a “bucket list” item or two thrown in there. I want to write a few novels, but perhaps my bigger goal is that I want to ensure that the people in my town and surrounding towns always have food to eat, water to drink, and a compassionate ear to listen to their troubles – and, perhaps in the future, my plans can grow beyond that by building a template for this that can be used elsewhere.

What is your vision? What would you truly like to do to leave your mark on the world? What can you do with your life to impact the world and the people around you? Figuring that out is in itself a challenge.

The Financial Challenge

Like it or not, we live in a society where a minimal amount of money is needed to provide for basic things like food, a roof over your head, running water, electricity, and so forth. That has a cost, and that cost has to be paid somehow. There’s also an expectation of a certain standard of living that some of us have, and that elevates that basic cost of living.

Even worse, many of us have dug ourselves into a financial pit of debt through the choices we’ve already made. Debt saps away your financial resources and restricts the choices that you can make, and when your choices are restricted by money, it becomes much harder to actually live up to the big vision you have for your life.

There are several practices you can take on to escape this challenge.

Lower your cost of living. Live in a smaller place. Don’t own a car, or own a used one. Make your meals at home instead of eating out regularly. Cut down on your entertainment services and expenses. Get free over-the-air television instead of cable. Eliminate either your land line or your cell. Buy generics at the store and keep doing so unless you discover that they really don’t work. Negotiate all of your bills. The key is to lower the amount of money flooding out of your life each month.

Pay off your debts. Your debts are a gigantic drain on your finances. Each and every month, you’re handing fistfuls of cash to the companies to which you owe money. Make it a big priority to get rid of those debts quickly and efficiently. Start with the debt that has the highest interest rate and make the biggest possible extra payment you can on that debt each month.

Have an emergency fund. This is a chunk of money that just sits in a savings account so you can access it quickly when an emergency occurs. You want that money to be very liquid and as risk-free as possible, which is why a savings account makes sense. A credit card doesn’t work well – it can be blocked by identity theft, credit card loss, or bumping up against a credit limit. Cash is king.

Start investing. The moment you pay off your debts, you’ll find yourself with a lot more money coming in compared to what’s going out. It is really tempting to start spending it and inflate your lifestyle. Don’t. Start investing it in a way that’s in line with your big vision. Save for early retirement or for the seed money for your business or for a year or two off from work to launch your big dreams. Maybe you can use those lowered expenses as a way to move into a lower-paying job with much more flexibility so you can give birth to your dreams.

The Distraction Challenge

Modern life is filled with countless distractions that pull us away from our big goals. Whether it’s a momentary distraction in the form of an interesting website or an email or a notification on our phone, or a big distraction like watching unfulfilling television or movies or simply trying to “compete” to see who has the biggest house and the “best” stuff in it, we are often pulled away from our big vision by other influences and desires.

I’m as guilty of this as anyone. I am easily distracted by interesting websites and links from my friends on Facebook. I’m often sucked in by the latest alert on my smart phone. While I find value in playing games that really stretch my thinking, I often play games that do not and those just serve as a distraction.

Those distractions eat your time. They eat your money. And they leave you with far fewer resources to tackle the big things you want from life. Here are three strategies for defeating distractions.

Cut distraction producers out of your life. Turn off your smart phone – or even downgrade to a “dumb” one. Cancel your cable subscription – or even ditch your television. Delete those distracting games from your computer.

Put reminders of your big goals everywhere. If your big goals are constantly in your mind, it’s easier for those big goals to find their way to the front of your mind when you’re at an idle moment. Make your computer screen saver and your wallpaper reminders of your goals. Put goal-oriented pictures all over your fridge. Decorate your house with them. Tape one to your rear view mirror. Wrap your credit cards with a picture of your goal.

Have an organized system for managing spare thoughts and to-do lists. I use a pocket notebook for writing down any and all thoughts as they come to me so that they don’t stay in my head and distract me; I process that notebook twice a day so that I don’t lose track of those thoughts. I use Todoist to keep track of my to-dos, and everything just goes in there so I’m not holding things in my head and I can focus entirely on whatever I’m doing.

The Responsibility Challenge

Most of us have signed on for many responsibilities in life that will often stand in the way of devoting a lot of time and energy to our big goals and our plans for achieving them.

For me, the responsibilities are numerous. I have three children, for starters. I’m the president of one civic group and an active member in several others. I have writing contracts signed that require me to write a certain amount each and every day.

Those things are responsibilities. Choosing not to fulfill them lets down a lot of people – some of them incredibly so – and would also destroy my reputation and have a big negative impact on my finances. That’s not really an option either.

Here are three strategies for handling and preparing your current responsibilities.

Build security for the things you’re responsible for. If you have children or even if you have a spouse that’s dependent in any way on your salary, make sure that you have adequate insurance on yourself so that they’re taken care of if something happens to you. Get your finances in order, too, so that if things don’t happen as you might hope that they would, your family’s not stuck in a rough spot.

Plan ahead for passing that responsibility to someone else. For other responsibilities, you should always document your procedures and try to bring things around to a point where it is easy to hand them off to someone else. Whenever you leave things in a mess, you’re risking damage to your own reputation and the potential for real liability.

Step back from some responsibilities in a mature fashion. Unless a responsibility is something that’s directly in line with your life goals – or is an intrinsic life responsibility that you chose, such as having children – don’t be afraid to step back from some responsibilities. Doing so will free up time, resources, and energy for taking on the bigger goals you have in life.

The Social Challenge

Many people in your life might look negatively upon some of the changes you’re making. There are a lot of reasons for that – some of them may be genuine concern, while others may be jealousy. You also may find yourself in social and familial circles where no one is working towards anything like what you dream of.

Don’t be held back by those social restrictions. Remember, you are the one that chooses the relationships that you have and what importance they have in your life.

While it can be difficult to start making changes to your social life, sometimes it’s really necessary to clear emotional roadblocks to where you want to be going. Here are three strategies for taking on that social challenge.

Stop caring what other people think. The only metric that matters for your personal success is you. The only input that matters for this success is the input from sources that you choose. As for everyone else? Their opinions don’t really matter much at all, so don’t worry about them. Don’t worry about what others think of how you spend your time, how you spend your money, or anything else.

Articulate your choices in terms of what you’re trying to achieve. Whenever someone else notices something you’re changing in your life, be sure to describe it in terms of your big goals. “I’ve always wanted to do X, but I realized that if I kept doing Y, it was never going to happen. So I’m giving it my best shot.”

Seek friends with a similar positive mindset. Look online and in your community for social groups that are interested in whatever your big goal happens to be and get involved with those groups. Cultivate friends that have a positive mindset toward those things and are making powerful choices in their lives to make it happen. When your social circle is making the same big steps toward the same big goals as you, it becomes far easier to make those steps yourself.

The Physical and Mental Challenge

Without a sound mind and sound body, it’s hard to make positive steps in your life. You need to feel good, have plenty of energy, and be mentally alert both for making positive steps in your life as well as working toward whatever your big goals are.

Most of the strategies for doing this are very simple. Here are four that I use in my own life each day.

Get plenty of sleep. This is an easy thing for a busy person to trim, but it’s almost always a mistake to cut back on sleep. When you feel tired, go to bed. When you’re sitting there doing something mindless because you have little energy near the end of your day, go to bed. Allow yourself to get plenty of sleep – the best night of sleep is one where you wake up naturally.

Eat a healthier diet. This isn’t too hard, either. Just try to ensure that the majority of the food you eat is fruits and vegetables, and drink water as your primary beverage. Those two rules alone will put you on the path to a much healthier diet than the average American and you’ll feel the results in your energy and mental focus.

Get some exercise. You don’t have to go out there and cross-train like an Olympic athlete, but getting some moderate exercise each day is good for your energy levels and your mental focus. A brisk walk is a great thing that anyone can do to get their blood pumping a little, and the benefits of that go far beyond your weight.

Challenge your mind in new ways every single day. Try to take on a challenge each day, whether it’s learning something new, solving a puzzle or playing a mentally challenging game, or taking on a new variation on the problems you often solve. The ability to wrap your mind quickly around new concepts and new problems will help you in almost everything you might choose to do in life.

This Is Your Life

It’s yours. No one else controls it. No one else gets to decide what you do with it. You do not have to live it in line with others might expect. You don’t have to do things the same way everyone else does.

Instead, you can choose to do something different, something that will leave a mark on the world. You can do things that will give you endless stories to tell, or you can do things that will help people in their lives.

Your life probably has some obstacles in the way of doing that. Push those obstacles aside.

You only live once. Don’t waste it.

THE END

 

Story written by Trent Hamm and republished here for your inspiration

How to be More Persuasive

The power of persuasion can be an extremely powerful tool when it is individually mastered to its fullest potential. It could affect whether you’re able to clinch that dream job after the interview or make that million dollar sale after hours of convincing a customer.

How to be more persuasive

Although you look dashingly smart and eloquent, unfortunately, focusing too much on how you present your pitch instead of whether what’s being said makes sense or not, will not be a boon for your power of persuasion. However, having said that, being presentable is still an important element to be persuasive but its importance is being superseded by having a clear, logical and irrefutable argument.

If you’re looking for concrete solutions on how to be more persuasive, here are 7 fallacies you should stop committing as they can weaken your power of persuasion.

1. Exaggerating Opposing Ideas

When debaters deploy this technique, what they’re actually trying to do is to undermine the credibility of the opposing idea by making the opponent seem extreme. For example in an everyday context, you might choose to omit certain facts of what’s actually been said in a heated argument between you and your partner. By saying that your partner hates kids when he or she merely just wants to shelve that plan to build a more secure future before the baby comes is a fine example.

By exaggerating, not only would you undermine your own credibility in the argument, you are also jeopardising the strength of your future arguments in the debate.

2. Taking It Too Personal

Debates or arguments might sometimes get so heated up, you might think it’s fine to take a swing at something personal. For example, by calling someone a crafty and untrustable person just because they look like one, only presents a weak argument from your side.

As much as possible, refrain from getting too personal but instead, argue against the idea, not the person.

3. Using Fear Tactics Without Evidence

We’d like to believe that appealing to the sense of fear would get our arguments across easily. Yes, it is worth looking at how to be more persuasive because when our audience is struck with fear, they’re susceptible to believing extreme claims of what can happen if they’re not willing to accept the argument.But that is only if these claims are backed with evidence.

Nothing would destroy your credibility faster than fabricating or exaggerating on facts and having your audience see through those lies.

4. Appeal To Ignorance

When you dismiss something to be untrue, it doesn’t mean that the opposite is true either. For example, you can’t say that the iPhone is the best smartphone in the world just because Samsung may not be considered the best since there have been instances where their phones exploded. There are other phones out there that are on par with the iPhone.

By choosing to ignore hard facts and going straight to validate a claim, not only are you showing people how shallow your depth of knowledge is, you’re also making yourself vulnerable to a strong counter-attack.

5. Using The Majority

By using the majority to back up a claim and to say that it is something “accepted” by many, is one of the fallacies we commonly use in our arguments. Like most of the argument fallacies we commit, laying claim to something that is accepted by the masses, when it clearly isn’t, would only spell trouble for your arguments.

If you’re a computer salesman for example, and you convince the customer that the computer is well received by the masses, only for them to find out otherwise later, then your credibility will be tarnished and you definitely won’t have them coming back to you.

6. Using Flowery Anecdotes

Using anecdotes can definitely put a point across as it helps to put things into perspective. But when you replace hard data with flowery anecdotes that don’t even hold water then people will start to think that you’re just full of hogwash.

Anecdotes such as praising oneself have a weak argument to it. For example, coming back to being a salesperson; if you’re trying to convince a customer by telling him or her that you’ve been very honest and that many people have bought the product and believed in it, chances are, you’re not going to get far with that argument simply because you don’t have the evidence to back that claim up.

7. Overgeneralising

Overgeneralizing and stereotyping are keys to failure. By judging a person or something based on one bad experience, you are only showing how ignorant you are to omit the good that’s been experienced by others.

For example, by saying that China makes sub-par products based on just one bad experience only makes for a lacklustre argument.

Song of Solomon 4:16

“Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out.”—Song of Solomon 4:16.

NYTHING is better than the dead calm of indifference. Our souls may wisely desire the north wind of trouble if that alone can be sanctified to the drawing forth of the perfume of our graces. So long as it cannot be said, “The Lord was not in the wind,” we will not shrink from the most wintry blast that ever blew upon plants of grace. Did not the spouse in this verse humbly submit herself to the reproofs of her Beloved; only entreating Him to send forth His grace in some form, and making no stipulation as to the peculiar manner in which it should come? Did she not, like ourselves, become so utterly weary of deadness and unholy calm that she sighed for any visitation which would brace her to action? Yet she desires the warm south wind of comfort, too, the smiles of divine love, the joy of the Redeemer’s presence; these are often mightily effectual to arouse our sluggish life. She desires either one or the other, or both; so that she may but be able to delight her Beloved with the spices of her garden. She cannot endure to be unprofitable, nor can we. How cheering a thought that Jesus can find comfort in our poor feeble graces. Can it be? It seems far too good to be true. Well may we court trial or even death itself if we shall thereby be aided to make glad Immanuel’s heart. O that our heart were crushed to atoms if only by such bruising our sweet Lord Jesus could be glorified. Graces unexercised are as sweet perfumes slumbering in the cups of the flowers: the wisdom of the great Husbandman overrules diverse and opposite causes to produce the one desired result, and makes both affliction and consolation draw forth the grateful odours of faith, love, patience, hope, resignation, joy, and the other fair flowers of the garden. May we know by sweet experience, what this means.

This amazing words, beautifully written by Charles Haddon Spurgeon (1834-92) has no direct-link to, but significant relevance with, anything we are considering at any given moment, because, without knowing the true graces of a relationship with whom I know as Jesus, and others may call a “higher power,” we are indeed frustrated, no matter how much we own or how many people love us. Let’s take every opportunity we have to reflect upon how blessed we are, regardless of how “successful” we label ourselves to be. In Truth, we are being held tightly by our God, forever safe under His Wings, and ought to be quite happy about it. Have a BLESSED day, my friends!!